Midnight son
December 27, 2012 at 8:14 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: party, Naomi Oakley, U-NOME Security, kid, parent, event, youth, prevention, safe parties, teenager, alcohol, drinking, teen, teenage, child, sexual assault, injury, duty of care, underage drinking, underage sex
Kids.
They grow up so fast!
Like to know how fast?
A 24-year-old drives his kid brother to a girl’s twelfth birthday.
The party’s in the well-heeled Melbourne suburb of Brighton.
When the man returns to collect his brother several hours later, he sees pre-teens (i.e. children) staggering round the front yard, vomiting profusely on the hydrangeas.
His young brother gets into the car.
When quizzed by his older sibling, the boy reports that it was the birthday girl’s parents who supplied the (copious) alcohol at this party.
The boy goes on to say that he used his mobile phone to photograph 12-year-old guests having oral and penetrative sex at various concealed locations around the multi-million-dollar property.
Nor was he the sole happy snapper.
There’s every chance these images will end up online.
And stay there.
Forever.
This tawdry tale illustrates three points I’ve been making for years:
- Parents holding events for young people are utterly failing to show any duty of care.
- One can only hope this sexual activity was consensual. Far too often it is not.
- Alcohol leads to violence, injury and death. How many more kids must be killed at these parties before stupid parents realise it’s unacceptable to just let it happen?
Happy New Year?
Not unless we change our tune!
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Sweet Sixteen & Utterly Pissed
August 8, 2011 at 7:08 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, booze, car, child, drinking, duty of care, hospital, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, parent, secondary supply, stomach pump, teen, teenager, underage drinking
- 16-year-old Sophie* attends a gathering at a friend’s house at 4 pm.
- Sophie drinks a bottle of vodka while the host parents party elsewhere on the property – not caring what’s happening in their home.
- Sophie passes out.
- Her eyes roll back.
- Her breathing becomes laboured.
- Her friends become distressed and wonder if they should ring an ambulance.
- The host parents order the ‘hindrance’ removed from their property!
- Sophie’s friends drag her outside, where a mother waits to collect her child at 7 pm.
- This concerned parent immediately takes Sophie to hospital in her car.
- There Sophie has her stomach pumped and is placed under observation for hours.
- What kind of people are these host parents?
- No duty of care for the kids in their home. No supervision. No ambulance. Nothing.
- Letting children drink so much. At that hour. Unsupervised.
- Worse, the new secondary supply law that goes live in February doesn’t cover BYO.
- What is this world coming to?!
- Parents! WAKE UP!
* This story is true. Only the name and photo are changed. Pray I don’t have to do likewise for you.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
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