Happy snaps
May 3, 2013 at 9:48 pm | Posted in Security | 1 CommentTags: camera, crowd control, event, gatecrasher, Naomi Oakley, party, police, prevention, safe parties, security, surveillance, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue
Ever keen to improve teen party safety, my team and I have been trying innovative solutions to the gatecrasher plague.
And boy, are we onto a winner!
Fixed cameras are proving to be a cheap, easy yet amazingly effective deterrent for unwanted guests.
Just take a look …
Holding the line
Here we have a 120-guest 18th birthday in Melbourne’s east.
The week before, my grapevine told me a notoriously violent gang was going to hit this party and cause mayhem.
So I advised the host to put the word out on Facebook that this event would be under surveillance.
We also informed Police who, as ever, were very proactive and helpful.
If you look closely, you can see me on the right telling the nice Constable that (for once!) the party was gatecrasher free.
Taking the ‘gate’ out of ‘gatecrasher’
Don’t be scared, this is our Brian – one of the good guys.
He’s inside the party perimeter.
Having checked the park opposite, he’s ensuring no gatecrashers hide behind the fence or burst through the gate to join him.
Imagine their surprise if they’re stupid enough to try!
This was another 18th birthday party, this time for 160 guests.
18 months earlier, an event at this address had been overrun by gatecrashers.
So we informed legitimate guests as they entered to spread the word that the external area of this venue was being recorded.
We pointed our camera at the weak spot the gatecrashers had used last time – a gate leading to a bushy park.
Problem solved!
Modern times
Both these images show the benefits of a fixed camera.
While both events fully expected gatecrashers, not a single one turned up.
Today’s teens are so wired into technology, you need only breathe a word of interest and it runs straight through their world.
If you can’t ‘afford’ professional security, at least get a camera. They cost a few hundred bucks and look like this:
And if you’re a wannabe gatecrasher keen to wreck an event, my expert crew and I have just one word for you:
…
SMILE!
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Drugged up
March 13, 2013 at 7:34 pm | Posted in Security | 3 CommentsTags: acid, alcohol, child, crowd control, drug dealer, event, kid, LSD, magic mushroom, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, police, prevention, PSY acid, safe parties, security, sniffer dog, teen, teenager, U-NOME Security
If you thought bad acid went out with Woodstock, think again. Today’s LSD is called ‘Psy acid’ and your teenager may be on it.
This news story backs up what my staff and I are dealing with at the coal face: hard drugs are filtering into teen events.
I’m very concerned, and I want parents to understand what’s readily available on the party scene.
Acid test
While pills are hard to detect, paper acid tabs are even harder. Hardest of all is liquid acid.
Kids bring this nearly odourless fluid to parties in bottles of perfume or mouthwash. It’s so potent, you needn’t drink it. Simply rubbing it onto skin triggers absorption and effect.
I find this particularly frightening.
Party poppers
I’ve also heard from party scene teens that some revellers are buying empty medicine capsules from health shops.
They then mix chopped psychotropic ‘magic’ mushrooms with ground coffee beans to make their own tablets.
Creeping menace
While working a recent 18th birthday with 150+ guests, I was alarmed at the amount of drug activity creeping into what used to be a fairly innocent celebration.
While hard drugs are far more difficult to detect than alcohol, we had warning signs at the start of the night.
These may prove useful if you’re planning a party.
Early warnings
- An unusually high percentage of teenagers had entered the party without alcohol. It turned out they were into other substances.
- The kids who weren’t drinking seemed agitated and their pupils were dilated.
- There was unusual activity around the toilets. This included milling, loitering, pacing, making phone calls and drinking water – all with a stressed or concerned expression.
- When the music started, some teens were extremely hyperactive on the dance floor. Their movements were strange and highly exaggerated. While some tottered around hugging strangers, many danced alone in their altered world.
- The DJ and several parents reported hearing conversations about buying pills.
Raw deal
Thoroughly alerted, my team and I swung into action. When I got the dealer’s name, I recognised it as he was actually on the guest list.
We stopped him from entering the party when we got a look at his enormous pupils. He was very agitated and quickly became aggressive – shouting and abusing parents and staff.
I called the police and tried to reason with this increasingly erratic youth. But when they arrived, he fled straight across a busy highway – narrowly escaping death.
As far as I know, he’s still out there.
Swabs or dogs?
Short of doing forensics or having a sniffer dog at your party, the options to keep drugs out are limited.
The most practical and affordable solution is to have experienced security staff working in cooperation with a diligent parent team to observe any unusual activity.
If you don’t, your special event may well end up in the toilet.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Alcohol is flooding our health system
January 27, 2013 at 12:07 am | Posted in Security | 2 CommentsTags: alcohol, BYO, child, death, drinking, duty of care, event, hospital, injury, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, prevention, safe parties, secondary supply, teen, teenage, teenager, tragedy, U-NOME Security, youth
Here’s a lovely article that I read with interest, then dismay: Drunk callouts swamp ambos.
Did you know that Western Australia’s stretched ambulance crews are treating ten drunks a day?!
I find this and other figures sobering.
What a pity other people don’t!
Lie of the land
In WA, more than seven teenagers a week are taken to hospital for intoxication.
Unfortunately, the State’s new reactive party legislation will not prevent alcohol abuse at teen and young adult events.
Whether these parties have supplied or BYO alcohol, it must be managed and served properly.
The only way parents can ensure this is to have an alcohol management plan that includes Responsible Serving of Alcohol.
If they don’t, more and more children will be carted off to hospital – or worse.
Shame game
Parents who collect their intoxicated son or daughter from a party should ask (or be asked) a serious question:
How did they allow this to happen to their child?
I have first-hand experience of parents who’ve:
- Picked up their unconscious child from a party.
- Detoured to a hospital to get their kid’s stomach pumped.
- Collected a kid from hospital who was rushed by ambulance from a party.
- Sent the party host the ambulance and/or hospital bill!
Seriously: does this look like a recipe for ‘good times’ to you?
Parental guidance
It’s really quite simple: adults hosting events must be made accountable
Until we have a party management system that requires parents to apply for a permit that ensures they fully discharge their duty of care, kids will continue to end up in hospitals.
And coffins.
So what will it take?
Must we wait until your family is torn apart by (totally preventable) injury and loss?
The answer is right in front of you.
Please read this and think about it!
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Midnight son
December 27, 2012 at 8:14 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, child, drinking, duty of care, event, injury, kid, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, prevention, safe parties, sexual assault, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, underage drinking, underage sex, youth
Kids.
They grow up so fast!
Like to know how fast?
A 24-year-old drives his kid brother to a girl’s twelfth birthday.
The party’s in the well-heeled Melbourne suburb of Brighton.
When the man returns to collect his brother several hours later, he sees pre-teens (i.e. children) staggering round the front yard, vomiting profusely on the hydrangeas.
His young brother gets into the car.
When quizzed by his older sibling, the boy reports that it was the birthday girl’s parents who supplied the (copious) alcohol at this party.
The boy goes on to say that he used his mobile phone to photograph 12-year-old guests having oral and penetrative sex at various concealed locations around the multi-million-dollar property.
Nor was he the sole happy snapper.
There’s every chance these images will end up online.
And stay there.
Forever.
This tawdry tale illustrates three points I’ve been making for years:
- Parents holding events for young people are utterly failing to show any duty of care.
- One can only hope this sexual activity was consensual. Far too often it is not.
- Alcohol leads to violence, injury and death. How many more kids must be killed at these parties before stupid parents realise it’s unacceptable to just let it happen?
Happy New Year?
Not unless we change our tune!
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Help your kids celebrate safely
November 14, 2012 at 1:30 am | Posted in Security | 11 CommentsTags: child, end of school, end of year, injury, kid, Naomi Oakley, safe parties, school break up, Schoolies, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security
It’s that time of year again.
Exams finish in a few weeks. Schoolies and end-of-year parties are just around the corner.
Parents are really stressing.
How do I know?
Because I’ve planned and worked at more than 500 teen events.
And because I have an 18-year-old daughter of my own.
Freak-out season
Parents are extremely concerned at the idea of their teenager heading interstate or overseas with a bunch of friends to celebrate the end of their school days.
Can you blame them?!
Think about it …
- Kids going on a plane.
- Staying in accommodation that you (and they) have little or no reliable information about.
- Celebrating in an unfamiliar area or country, surrounded by strangers, with different laws and customs.
- Bad scenarios that can (and unfortunately do) unravel on these trips include theft, accident, injury, (sexual) assault, alcohol poisoning, bad drugs, corrupt officials … the list goes on.
Many parents feel helpless, torn between:
- Fear for their children.
- The desire to let them enjoy their freedom.
It’s enough to make you freak!
Solution
Over the last few months (including a few sleepless nights!) I’ve been designing a service to give parents some peace of mind.
The aim? To ensure that if kids mess up or get in a tricky situation while away from the safety of home, there’s someone to call apart from (or in addition to) local police.
My solution? To offer a service where Safe Partying Australia Welfare Officers:
- Travel to and stay in the same area as your kids.
- Suss things out on the ground.
- Give your kids vital awareness tips for the location.
- Remain within walking distance of them.
- Be on call to respond swiftly should the need arise.
Safe Partying Australia staff are Melbourne-based and have extensive security and safety experience with teens. These caring professionals can assist parents and teens for as long as they’re needed.
Confidentiality is guaranteed. In other words, unless there’s a requirement for parents to be notified about something, ‘what happens on the trip stays on the trip’.
If you’d like to know more about this valuable service, email me today!
It may well be the best call you ever make.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Unhappy Halloween
November 2, 2012 at 10:30 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | 1 CommentTags: alcohol, crowd control, event, gatecrasher, Halloween, Naomi Oakley, party, Party Plan Checklist, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager
While Western Australia is in election mode, teen parties continue to cause havoc in the community – creating nights more terrifying than any Halloween.
Yet this horror is well within our power to control.
An ounce of prevention …
I’ve always believed a proactive, preventative solution is far better than a passive reaction.
To this end, my proactive legislative solution will ensure parents have the right plans in place, i.e.:
- Ensure each venue is safe and suitable for a party.
- Notify police in advance.
- Have a ratio of 1 responsible adult to every 20 kids.
- Ensure professional security staff are in place. By this, I don’t mean Uncle Bert or some steroid-pumping neighbour with a security licence. I mean an expert company with professional liability cover.
- Ensure all alcohol is managed.
Most teen parties featured in the media have come unstuck due to alcohol being brought onto the property and not managed.
While gatecrashers definitely play a part in causing mayhem, parties with no alcohol control are doomed before they even start.
The bottom line is that no plan invariably equals disaster.
If we fail to control alcohol, the mess these parties make will go on and on – and escalate.
Unless we do something about it.
Permission to party
If more parents were made aware of the links described above, and the reasons for having a party permit system, I believe they’d understand and support the need to apply for a permit to plan, hold and manage these events.
After all, what caring, reasonable parent would not want to ensure their child (and every teen guest) is safe within their party?!
And what kind of parent would not want these children to get home safely after their event?
So that’s the carrot.
Now for the stick.
Courting disaster
If parents aren’t motivated by love, perhaps they’ll respond to fear.
According to this court ruling, parents have been warned they’re at risk of legal action if they fail to properly supervise other people’s children.
This could easily relate to teen parties.
Think about this for a second …
Are you prepared to take such an enormous risk for the sake of your event?
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
A peek at your destiny
October 15, 2012 at 12:57 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, crowd control, event, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, Party Plan Checklist, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue
There are some things you just don’t want to spend money on.
Insurance, dental work and red-light camera fines spring to mind.
These expenses sure ain’t fun, but failing to cover them can cost you a whole lot more down the track.
Unfortunately, these days, security for your party is another ‘unfun-but-necessary’ purchase.
I know you’d much rather spend your hard-earned cash on a thousand other things.
I also know money’s tight for a lot of people now.
So I’m going to make it very very easy for you to protect yourself, your family, your guests, your home and your community.
How?
By offering an expert, comprehensive pre-party assessment for a mere $100 plus GST.
Just try. You don’t have to buy.
I’ve spoken about pre-party assessments here, here, here, here and here.
Why do I keep mentioning these? Because a pre-party assessment can solve more dramas before they happen than a hundred security staff could deal with on the day.
By planning ahead, you save money and we save lives, limbs and property.
Even if you don’t want to spend another cent on securing your event, you owe it to a lot of people to at least get your venue sussed and your party planned.
And now you can do it with no obligation of actually booking any security.
Plan to win.
When you get me round for a pre-party assessment, I will:
- Spot and flag the physical risks of your venue and grounds.
- Draft an Alcohol Management Plan.
- Explain how to optimise your guest list.
- Recommend the appropriate guest-to-parent ratio (and explain exactly why).
- Outline a Transport Plan to get your guests home in one piece after your event.
Once I’ve done this all for you, we can part without another dollar changing hands.
Too good to be true?
So how on Earth can I afford to give you my time, travel and expertise for a mere hundred bucks?
Because so many of the people I do this for realise the deadly danger of not correcting issues before a party goes to hell.
If, on the other hand, you reckon you can handle the whole shooting match yourself, at least we’ll both know that you were warned.
If you doubt my sincerity, read my proposal or check my testimonials.
Then drop me a line.
I warmly welcome your inquiry:
deal or no deal!
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
The rise of the ‘hatecrasher’
September 9, 2012 at 2:32 am | Posted in Security | 5 CommentsTags: bottle, crowd control, gang, gatecrasher, knife, Naomi Oakley, neighbour, nightmare, parent, party, police, private school, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
Young. Strong. Spiteful. Vicious. Terrifying.
When it comes to gatecrashers, I’ve seen it all. But now I’m witnessing a new level of violence – fuelled by a blind, searing hatred of everyone and everything.
This disturbing shift is so pronounced, I’m calling these intruders ‘hatecrashers’. This word isn’t in any dictionary. But if we don’t do something now to address this turn for the worse, it’s a word that’ll become all too familiar.
Four on the floor
In the last month, my staff and I handled four 16th birthday parties gatecrashed by thugs eager to injure people and damage property. Had we not controlled these events, both would have happened.
Note that these were ‘dry’ events. Hatecrashers even crash parties where alcohol is not available.
School of (very) hard knocks
When kids go gatecrashing, it’s obvious their parents have no idea where they are. I see the same kids cropping up. And I know they go to some prestigious local schools.
These private schools have huge fees … but for what? I wonder what their families would think of their precious boys as ten of them:
- Smash a gate to splinters.
- Make a huge racket hammering a back fence.
- Wake and terrify elderly neighbours by pounding on their metal garage.
I saw them do all this and more.
There goes the neighbourhood
At another party, my crew worked to secure a smashed back fence while hatecrashers pelted them with bottles, garden stakes, log seats and whatever else they could get their hands on.
In most situations, we don’t know if these streetwise thugs have weapons. While we take every precaution, Police back-up is invariably hard to raise on busy weekends.
Neighbours are suffering and becoming extremely distressed. One rang me to say she was home with three young children and too petrified to move. Another neighbour, also too scared to go outside, messaged me to protest the deafening noise and smashed bottles beyond her bedroom window.
Not a parent in sight
The last party had 140 guests and 25 gatecrashers. Five sneaked in via the back while 20 more hit the front. I’m thankful my experienced staff have the expertise to deal with such unpredictable and volatile situations.
Hatecrashers are not shy, skinny types. Most are two metres tall (or more) and seem to have a ready supply of steroids.
They also have backpacks, hoodies and very likely weapons. They abuse security staff, disrespect parents and destroy all property – inside and out.
When the Police finally arrived at this fracas, they stopped some of these kids and called their parents.
Not one parent picked up the phone.
Not one of these modern-day hoods was charged with anything.
Wrong crowd
I know for a fact that two gatecrasher gangs prowl Melbourne’s leafy eastern suburbs.
Areas like Malvern, Armadale, Kew, Box Hill North, Burwood and Camberwell are beautiful by day. But if you’re having a teen party, brace yourself for hatecrashers.
Many parents think event security means putting the biggest, ugliest adult out the front. Such traits are no match for a gang of super-fit youths with knives.
These days you need adequate planning, plenty of responsible parents and professional party security.
Horror movie
The video above is a compilation of recent gatecrasher activity.
Sadly, I expect to have more footage, very soon.
Yet if we could legislate to control teen events, our children could party safely.
And the destructive morons could be charged with the new offence of ‘Gatecrasher’.
Read my proposal to see what I mean.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Further reading: http://stonnington-leader.whereilive.com.au/news/story/stonnington-parents-warned-to-plan-ahead-for-safe-teen-parties/
Why each parent should have 20 kids
July 30, 2012 at 5:10 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, bottle, child, crowd control, drinking, duty of care, event, fight, gatecrasher, injury, kid, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, prevention, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
As teen parties get bigger, riskier and more elaborate, host parents are finding there’s extra help at hand: other parents and responsible (i.e. mature, sober) adults.
This is good news, as parents planning teen events need all the help they can get.
They also need to realise some really important points.
Key among these is the ratio of parents to kids.
Numbers game
If you work on 1 parent for every 15-20 kids, you take a massive step in the right direction.
This manageable ratio means you can task parents to areas that invariably cause problems, like:
- Monitor toilets and bathrooms to prevent these areas being trashed.
- Observe bedrooms to discourage unwanted activity.
- Manage the alcohol area for reasons too important and numerous to list!
- Patrol fences and other perimeter areas to thwart gatecrashers.
On the list
Another vital thing is to ensure you have the guest list at least 3 days before the event and DO NOT allow any more names to be added.
As the host parent, it’s up to YOU to provide a safe environment for the kids and security staff who come to your home or other venue.
If you tell me you’re having 100 kids, I’ll tell you to have 2 crowd control professionals and 5 parents.
I know this for a fact, because I’ve kept more than 700 teen events incident free.
Some host parents agree to my recommendation.
But when my staff and I arrive at their event, we often find 140 kids and only 2 parents.
This not only infuriates me, it puts everyone in and around the party in danger.
Here’s how.
Eight steps to chaos
- You can NOT manage a bar with just two parents.
- Your two security staff (if you’re wise enough to book them) will have their hands full securing your front door, enforcing your guest list and searching for drugs and alcohol.
- With no adults available to check your perimeter, unwanted guests will stream over the back fence like rodents.
- People will start vomiting on couches and behind doors.
- Fights will start to simmer all over the place.
- The situation will become volatile, needing just a small push to become an all-in brawl.
- With no parents to stop them, your back-door gatecrashes will start trashing your home.
- With the adults now totally outnumbered, you’ll then blame me and my staff for not entering your home to sort out your self-made disaster (and cop a bottle in the head for our trouble).
Get the picture?
I sure hope so, as I’m NOT making this up.
Your move
I can’t force you to do the right thing.
As a ‘grown-up’, you’re free to make your own mistakes.
But if you do, you may not only harm yourself, your kids, your possessions and your home.
You may also risk the lives of others – along with the chronic and crippling legal, financial and moral consequences of your arrogance, carelessness and stupidity.
So by all means do your own thing, if you must.
But when all hell breaks loose at your event, don’t you dare try to pass the buck.
KNOW THAT THE ONLY ONE TO BLAME IS YOU!
If, on the other hand, you decide to take a reasonable and responsible approach to hosting a teen party, read my positive proposal for change.
It’s all there.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
It’s NO ‘accident’!
July 16, 2012 at 7:34 am | Posted in Security | 2 CommentsTags: accident, alcohol, car, crash, death, drinking, duty of care, event, injury, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, party, Party Plan Checklist, prevention, safe parties, teen, teenage, teenager, tragedy, U-NOME Security, youth
In my view, an accident is something you have no control over.
If, for instance:
- you’re driving a car;
- a large spider drops on you from behind the sun visor and
- you crash into a tree,
that’s an accident.
If, on the other hand:
- you’re rushing and driving at speed;
- you tailgate the car in front of you and
- you rear-end them when they brake,
that’s no accident.
That’s plain carelessness.
Media scrum
Sadly, the tragedies listed below were no accident.
Had proper planning been in place, these teen celebrations would have been spared the associated injury and death:
- Five young men killed in high speed crash.
- Young girl killed and four injured in smash.
- Dead girl’s friends claim drink was spiked with ecstasy.
- Man stabbed in chest after house party.
- Man who died after king hit ‘wanted a fight’.
- One dead and three injured in car ‘accident’.
When is enough enough?!
To protect our children from serious injury and death, parents wanting to hold a teen event must:
- Apply for a party permit.
- Have a proper party plan in place.
- Discharge their duty of care to guests and the community before, during and after the event.
But until we introduce legislation to ensure parents do these things, we’re doomed to witness yet more carnage.
Parents must realise it isn’t just about their child’s celebration. Failing to plan an event can all-too-easily lead to the planning of funerals.
As a parent of a teenager myself, I beg you to act responsibly and support my positive proposal for change.
Unless, of course, your child’s happiness and welfare mean nothing to you.
In which case our society is surely lost.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
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