Death never takes a holiday
November 2, 2011 at 10:57 pm | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: accident, alcohol, crash, crowd control, death, drinking, duty of care, event, injury, kid, Naomi Oakley, parent, prevention, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, tragedy, U-NOME Security
Yet more teenagers died this week.
Seven teens left a Halloween Party in a stolen car and came to grief.
Just 24 hours prior to this, a teenage girl left a party, opted not to get picked up by her parent and got into a boy’s car instead.
Now she’s dead too.
Incredibly, it seems people have forgotten the January 2010 tragedy where five kids died in a vehicle that left a party.
Alcohol was a factor in all these ‘accidents’.
But let’s rewind.
I’ve always believed that if you have adequate safety and security measures at a party, you can prevent tragedy.
You must manage all alcohol at an event, even if it’s BYO.
A host’s duty of care can also extend beyond the event.
Parents organising a party should take reasonable steps to establish how their teenage guests are getting home.
Even if these kids walk out of a party, the question must be asked.
At the very least, doing this may get kids thinking.
You may be able to persuade them take a taxi or wait for parents to collect them.
Managing all aspects of a teen party is extremely important.
If parents don’t have the skills and resources to manage a party properly, they should think about having professional crowd control to monitor and assist them.
By covering every base, we ensure the next teen party doesn’t end in tears.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
What price peace?
October 13, 2011 at 1:02 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, crowd control, drinking, duty of care, event, gang, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, neighbour, police, prevention, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, youth
Another party went feral last week. This time in the well-heeled Melbourne suburb of Kew.
The host parent had called me earlier, but baulked at my $500 quote for full event security.
When I sent one of my staff to watch the night go off the rails, he saw plenty more than $500 worth of booze in play.
This sure makes me wonder about people’s priorities.
So easily avoided
Here’s part of what the host parent wrote to me when declining my services:
‘I have taken on board what you advised and enlisted at least 10 parents help, mainly fathers. So I’m sending up a prayer and hoping for the best this time.’
I replied:
‘Hopefully your neighbours and the Police will understand when it impacts them. Parents are not covered by any sort of insurance if you have a problem with gatecrashers or intoxication. I suggest you will have problems in both these areas.’
‘Hopes and prayers’ indeed!
As it turned out, ‘security’ on the night was a young woman and her boyfriend drinking wine as they checked names off at the door!
By 9 pm, exactly as I predicted, the place was riddled with gatecrashers – hanging round in hostile groups and jumping fences to get in.
Three police call-outs and one drunk, unconscious boy later, I wonder if the parent regretted her decision not to heed my warnings.
$500 could have prevented all this drama and danger.
I ask you: how much is peace of mind (and perhaps a young life) worth?!
Bearing witness
I occasionally send my staff to observe the public impact of parties I consider at risk for failing to take my safety and duty-of-care advice.
The evidence we collect is used to support our push for safe event laws.
The Kew party is now just another statistic.
The sadder fact is, I know it’s only a matter of time until we witness another party-related injury.
Or death.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Your taxes at work
September 19, 2011 at 4:18 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, car, child, crowd control, drinking, duty of care, event, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, neighbour, nightmare, parent, party, police, safe parties, secondary supply, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, youth
Even when I warned him his party would spiral out of control, a Wheelers Hill kid ignored my advice and held a party last weekend.
As I predicted, it turned ugly. And the emergency services response cost tax payers (you and me) a small fortune.
Words of warning
The boy rang me last Thursday to say he needed security at a basketball party.
I asked a few questions and he said:
- There’d be 150 kids aged 16-18.
- They’d be free to bring alcohol.
- There’d be only one parent present.
I advised him that:
- He’d need four professional staff to keep control.
- He’d also need at least six parents to assist.
- Alcohol would have to be controlled at a central point.
- If he didn’t follow my recommendations, his night would be a nightmare.
The boy seemed surprised.
And didn’t call back.
Storm clouds
I knew this event would go pear-shaped. I informed Glen Waverley Police so they’d at least have some detail on the party when they inevitably responded. Cops HATE flying blind.
Despite giving them this heads up, I still couldn’t relax on the day.
Instead of spending a pleasant Saturday night at home with my family, I felt compelled to observe how this party would unravel.
Fortunately, I was supported by one of my staff who’s similarly ardent about safe teen parties.
We arrived at the boy’s home at 9 pm and were seriously shocked.
The entire property was teeming with teens: at least 170 in the house plus another 100 milling around out the front.
A neighbour was screaming as kids jumped his fence.
Every few minutes, maxi cabs disgorged more kids, while larger groups arrived from the bus stop.
All were carrying beer slabs, massive wine casks and/or bags of pre-mixed drinks.
I thought of their parents. Had ANY asked what sort of party their offspring were attending, or whether there’d be any responsible adults around?
Hell’s teeth
Amid the chaos, I saw only one security person on the front gate. I couldn’t tell if they were professional (trained, safe, insured) or amateur (volatile, dangerous, not liable).
With the frantic neighbour now on the phone, I figured the Police would arrive any minute.
When the first van arrived, the scene was daunting indeed for the two members inside.
Utterly outnumbered, they cautiously emerged clutching their flasks of capsicum spray.
Fearing for them, I let them know my colleague and I were around.
The sole parent was out the front – bawling at the cops to get everyone out.
While they liaised with him, the kids streamed over the road, taking photos next to the Police car as if it were a trophy!
After a very long ten minutes, much-needed back up arrived:
- 6 more Police vans.
- 2 Dog Squad units.
- 1 large brawler van.
It took all this to stop the music and shut the nightmare down.
How there wasn’t a death or serious injury is beyond my comprehension.
Now hear this
Parents MUST get this message before more kids (maybe theirs) die:
There are NO EXCUSES.
You can’t PLEAD IGNORANCE any more.
Do NOT let your child plan a party.
YOU do it.
YOU take responsibility.
The sooner we have teen event legislation, the better.
And don’t think the new minors and alcohol legislation that comes into effect in Feb will save us. It won’t.
Because it doesn’t cover BYO events like this.
Parent’s MUST be made accountable.
It’s YOUR money, Ralph!
At a very conservative estimate, the Police response to this event cost $5000.
Worse, these precious resources were diverted from serious, legitimate crime prevention at the busiest time of the week.
All neighbouring suburbs were stripped of their ability to respond.
Tough luck if YOU needed a divvy van to catch that burglar you heard on Saturday!
You and I are paying for this shameful waste with our taxes.
We’re paying more and getting less.
So, if you can’t do the right thing your kids,
at least do it for yourself!
PS. I got some excellent video footage of this debacle, if you’re interested.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Violence ain’t ‘senseless’
August 29, 2011 at 5:40 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: accident, alcohol, child, crowd control, death, drinking, duty of care, event, injury, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, neighbour, Party Plan Checklist, police, safe parties, secondary supply, security, teen, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
We hear a lot about ‘senseless violence’.
But when kids get injured at parties, it’s not the violence that’s senseless.
It’s the parents.
With prior planning, parties needn’t suffer any violence.
To me, ‘senseless’ is someone stabbing you in the street.
Car accidents aren’t senseless. Most are due to speed, alcohol, fatigue or other driver error.
The following situations recently came to my attention. All have been called ‘senseless’, when really they’re not.
Birthday bash
An 18-year-old’s parents didn’t want to control alcohol at his birthday party.
They wanted the kids to ‘have fun’.
So they confined their attentions to the front of their home.
Meanwhile, out of sight in a back bedroom, their dear son had sex with a minor.
This boy faces a life-ruining conviction and placement on the sex offender register.
All because his parents didn’t want to set boundaries.
What FUN!
Making sense
A grieving mother, whose son was fatally stabbed outside a party, has asked a judge to send a hard message about the deadly consequences of ‘senseless violence’.
I’m told alcohol wasn’t restricted at this event. Had an alcohol plan been in place, this situation may well have ended differently.
A life could have been saved and a boy prevented from going to jail.
I believe most parents who read this article will think the teen stupid for drinking so much. But what about the parents who let it happen?
This is where the senselessness lies.
Foregone conclusion
Parents near Shepparton held an after-formal party for their kids. Yet again, there was minimal security and no restriction of alcohol. The results?
- Brawls on a neighbour’s property.
- Children and parents terrified in their homes.
- Half a dozen Police units called at 10 pm. They use capsicum spray. Some are injured.
Organisers said, ‘They didn’t know this would happen’. Yet they’d have a very different attitude if there were consequences to their lack of forethought.
Duty of Care is the responsibility of the parents. They must think about consequences of their (lack of) actions.
On the edge
Four teens were hospitalised after a balcony at the party they were attending collapsed.
I believe this tragedy could have been avoided. Again, it was no accident.
Pre-assessments of party venues are necessary to flag physical safety issues.
Most balconies are designed for domestic use only. Our pre-assessment plans forbid parties on balconies and stair wells.
We also cover perimeter fences, pools, alcohol plans and experienced, professional event security. These simple things:
- Prevent most parties from turning ugly.
- Minimise violence in our community.
- Save lives.
- Free our emergency services and judicial system.
If you minimise the risks, you turn things from ‘senseless’ to sensible.
Duty of care
Parents need to show duty of care.
If the new alcohol legislation doesn’t include duty of care and alcohol control, we need to go back to the drawing board and look at my safe event law proposal.
A holistic approach is the best option
Unless we have consequence for parents who don’t exercise duty of care when hosting a party our kids will suffer ever more violence.
A tragic waste of life that’s truly ‘senseless’.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Second Thoughts
July 4, 2011 at 4:40 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: alcohol, bring your own, BYO, drinking, duty of care, event, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, parent, police, prevention, safe parties, secondary supply, teen
Nasty Surprise
After my recent one-hour interview with the Member for Doncaster, Mary Wooldridge, it was discovered that the secondary supply law due to come into effect in Feb 2012 will NOT include BYO alcohol at teen parties.
In my experience of planning and protecting 700 teen events, most problems have been with drinks brought by guests and not managed by parents.
This secondary supply law omission, therefore, is a massive oversight!
Last fortnight, both parties (in Croydon and Geelong) which hit the media were BYO. In fact, most parties we hear about for all the wrong reasons are due to problems caused by BYO alcohol.
MP Wooldridge cited figures on teens overindulging at parties where parents supplied the alcohol.
I’m unsure how these figures were collated, given that police don’t keep records on how many out-of-control parties they attend.
This is something I’ve been pushing for. Wouldn’t it be better to have hard data on out-of-control parties so we can determine objectively why they’re going off the rails?
Massive Oversight
BYO parties are by far the most volatile, because no-one controls the alcohol.
The secondary supply law doesn’t cover BYO. This means that once this law is passed, we’ll see more BYO teen parties because host parents may find it too difficult to get guest parent permission for their kids to drink at these events.
Furthermore, we still don’t know what sort of permission is required (email? hand-written note?). Nor do we know how such permissions will be authenticated.
MP Wooldridge also said there’d be huge amounts of money spent on an awareness campaign. What happens then? I’ll tell you. More people will have BYO parties and no-one will be accountable again and again.
Planning to Fail
Some states already have secondary supply laws, but these have failed to control private parties. (Click here for Queensland’s latest nightmare.)
If Victoria’s secondary supply legislation also fails, as I’m sure it will, I believe we must look at teen party legislation for a solution.
A holistic approach is infinitely better. Parents must be accountable for every party they plan. Duty of care is THE most important factor. This makes far more sense than having police chase every underage partygoer (who’s drinking host-supplied alcohol) for a note from their parents.
This seems the height of impracticality to me.
What do you think?
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Serving Suggestions
March 21, 2011 at 3:15 am | Posted in Security | 3 CommentsTags: alcohol, child, crowd control, drinking, duty of care, event, fight, kid, legislation, Naomi Oakley, party, Party Plan Checklist, police, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, youth
Good News / Bad News
I’m delighted the State Government is concerned about teenage alcohol abuse.
However, I strongly feel the law described in this article is too narrow.
If we fine adults who give alcohol to children visiting their homes without their parents’ permission, the ripple effect may be bigger than we think.
Private parties need to be managed long before they begin. This is why I’ve been pushing to regulate these events.
It’s not just about alcohol. Parties unravel due to a number of things, including:
- Parents not assisting with planning.
- Inadequate private and public venues.
Creating a secondary alcohol supply offence for parents in relation to private parties may actually do more harm than good.
Parent Trap
One of my methods of controlling teen parties is to mange all booze at a central point, including BYO.
Parents collect a teen’s BYO on entry, then take it to a secure bar area where other responsible parents control and serve it. The teen can only drink via this method.
If this new law gets up, parents will be too scared to step in and manage any booze coming into a party, including BYO.
Kid Power
With parents unwilling to handle the booze, kids will help themselves and end up sick, brawling or passed out – all of which are a burden on our community and emergency services.
Proof in the Pudding
During 12 years in Victoria Police and six years as MD of a private security firm, I’ve handled around 650 teen parties. I know how to make them safe.
In the last seven months alone, I’ve planned and organised 70 events using the recommendations in my Safe Event Law Proposal.
Of these 70 events, NOT ONE had alcohol-fuelled issues.
Questions
Planning a teen party is the key. I don’t think creating a secondary supply offence will reduce issues at parties.
If the government does proceed, however, I have some questions:
- What happens to parents who want to do the right thing and manage alcohol as it’s brought in?
- What type of parent permission is required for a teen who wants to drink? Email? Note? What if the teen forges it? Will we analyse hand writing?
- Who will enforce this law? If the police, then with what resources?
The key is to have a holistic regulatory framework. One that includes gatecrashing and social networking offences.
As I’ve suggested in my proposal.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
All the Wrong Moves
March 17, 2011 at 5:16 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: accident, alcohol, crowd control, drinking, drunk, duty of care, event, fight, gang, guest, kid, liability, Naomi Oakley, neighbour, nightmare, parent, party, Party Plan Checklist, police, prevention, private school, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
Girl Talk
A young girl rang and asked if I could provide crowd control for an after-formal party for 400 teens in an inner-Melbourne factory area.
She couldn’t believe I was concerned when she told me:
- The school didn’t want to know about it. (No kidding!)
- Only two parents would assist … then leave after just one hour.
- It was BYO alcohol (and everything else) as they couldn’t be bothered sorting this out.
- The average guest age was 16.
- Police hadn’t been notified. (I wonder why?)
Father Knows Best?
Having planned and worked at 600 teen parties, I know how to do pre-party assessments for parents.
These include making the venue safe, preventing unwanted guests and planning for risks, alcohol and transport.
A father decided that, despite my vast experience, he didn’t want any restrictions on his son’s 18th birthday (or his 60 teenage guests).
He ‘knew them all’; they were ‘good kids’. Yet he did ask if my staff would break up any fights.
Not on my watch! I provide a safe environment for my staff and the people they protect.
This is called:
DUTY.
OF.
CARE!
Write it down, before it bites you on the bum.
Begging for Trouble
A young man asked me to provide security for 350 16-year-olds in the western suburbs. Once again, just two parents home, unrestricted alcohol and not a word to the cops.
Recipe for disaster doesn’t begin to cover this.
Out of Her Mind
A mother asked me about security for a teenage party:
- 50 kids? Yep.
- Eastern suburbs? Yep.
- Alcohol? Not restricted.
- Parents? Nup.
WHAT?!
The mother was going overseas that weekend, leaving her teen to party with 50 others in her house. Pity her neighbour! Yet she whinged about a recent party that had deposited underwear and empty booze bottles in her yard!
Are you getting this?!
Crash & Burn
Two distressed mothers enquired about crowd control for their teens’ birthday. Their kids had been at the same party a few weeks ago. This party had parents ‘doing security’ -thinking anyone can perform this demanding and difficult job.
Two hours in, 20 gatecrashers arrived, started a brawl, injured guests and ended the event.
The birthday boy was shattered that he couldn’t celebrate his special day.
The Usual Suspects
All this happened in the last few weeks. The usual common elements are:
Alcohol control. If you don’t restrict grog, guests will fight, vomit or pass out. If not this time, then the next. Your luck will run out.
Police notification. It’s extremely stressful for police to attend an event they know nothing about. Do the right thing and inform them. You may need them more than you could ever imagine.
Duty of care. If you don’t provide a safe environment for guests and neighbours, you could be liable. Think before you plan a party and ensure parents are there to assist.
I’ll cover social media in detail soon. For now, do NOT promote any event on social networking spaces unless you want it to end in anti-social behaviour!
I’m not the party police, but I do know how to ensure everyone has a great time at yours.
Ignore these warnings at your (considerable) peril.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Six Faces of Pain
February 28, 2011 at 3:21 am | Posted in Security | Leave a commentTags: accident, alcohol, crowd control, drinking, event, legislation, Naomi Oakley, parent, police, prevention, safe parties, security, teen, teenage, teenager, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
Last weekend in sunny Adelaide, an ambulance attended a party to treat a girl who’d sustained a (probably alcohol-related) injury:
As this girl was being treated, she ran onto the road and got hit by a car, whereupon the party guests began abusing the paramedics.
Based on my experiences as a police officer, security provider, parent, guest and neighbour, this is how I believe each person felt on the night:
1. Parent
I’ll let my teenage daughter walk to the party with her friends. I won’t bother ringing to check if the party will have parents there. I trust my child, so I don’t need to ask questions about alcohol.
This sort of thing could never happen to us:
2. Teen
Great! I can walk with my mates. Mum doesn’t know the party has plenty of booze, hardly any parents and no security.
I’m going to get smashed; along with a few friends who’ve heard about this event on Facebook:
3. Neighbour
What the hell is going on over the road?! Kids everywhere; drunk. No security; hardly any parents about.
My kids will never sleep with this racket going on, and I’m too scared to walk over to see what’s going on:
http://www.themorningbulletin.com.au/story/2011/02/27/teen-arrested-rocky-party
4. Ambulance
Oh great; another uncontrolled party. Guess we won’t be able to attend to that sick elderly man; he’ll just have to wait.
These wretched parties are such a burden on our resources. Hopefully it won’t be too wild:
http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2011/02/26/3149718.htm
5. Police
What are we heading into this time? What sort of event is it? How many people are there? I hope there aren’t any garden tools lying around like last time. A pity we’ll have to delay attending to that reported business break in.
These parties are a pain in the butt. Hopefully we get some back up this time. At the last one I attended, I got hit in the head with a bottle for my trouble:
http://au.news.yahoo.com/thewest/a/-/newshome/8915332/police-called-to-wild-teenage-parties
6. Hospital
Not another drunk, injured teen! As if we’re not busy enough already. Guess we’ll have to delay seeing that boy who fell off his scooter and broke his leg.
Conclusion
All these preventable dramas happened in one fortnight! And they’re just the tip of the iceberg.
Parties are turning deadly right across our nation, because parents are neither planning nor controlling them.
We need legislative change.
We need Police to record data on out-of-control events.
Our politicians won’t serious until they have real figures in front of them.
Unless we act, it’ll be another set of horror stories next weekend.
And the next.
And the next.
Naomi Oakley, Founder, Safe Partying Australia.
Too Cool for School
January 24, 2011 at 3:03 am | Posted in Security | 1 CommentTags: alcohol, brain damage, crowd control, drinking, duty of care, event, fight, glassing, grievous bodily harm, law suit, Naomi Oakley, parent, party, Party Plan Checklist, police, prevention, risk, safe parties, security, sue, teen, teenage, teenager, tragedy, U-NOME Security, venue, violence, youth
I can’t say enough about the duty of care of parents who host parties. Here’s yet another report of a party turned to crap (courtesy of Police News):
‘Police are appealing for information after a party turned ugly at Carrum Downs last Thursday night.
At about 10.30pm on 20 January a group of people turned up unannounced to a Lyrebird Drive residence and were then asked to leave the party.
After the confrontation, a 21 year old Carrum Downs man was stabbed several times in the head and face with a broken bottle.
Another 19 year old man from Skye was also stabbed in the head with the bottle, and another 20 year old Mount Eliza man was stabbed in the back with what is believed to be a screwdriver.
All three men were transported to the Frankston Hospital with serious injuries.
Police are on the hunt for three men who are believed to be aged between 17 and 21 from the Carrum Downs area.’
Sounds to me like there was no crowd control at this event.
Here’s another story that put three police members in hospital. It’s just one of dozens of stories I’m collating in a national database.
I’ll bet you London to a brick these guests were all drunk because the parents didn’t want to control the alcohol. Why? Because they wanted to be ‘cool’ with the kids.
And while they were being cool, their guests were getting the crap beaten out of them. Then, when the party got too wild, they called emergency services to clean up their mess.
When are parents going to listen?!
Again and again we see our stretched emergency services called to situations that could’ve been prevented. I can see the neighbours cringing inside their properties thinking, ‘Not another teenage party!’
Almost all these stories come down to planning and duty of care. If parents provide these, parties will be pleasant for guests and safe for the community and emergency services. And the only way to make sure of this is to bring in safe party permits.
Parents who plan a party for their kids are responsible for all guests. This means they must control the alcohol. They must also diligently and continually observe all guests to ensure they’re partying safely. They must also provide a safe party environment that keeps unwanted guests out.
Not doing this could mean civil action by another parent. I know of two cases in Melbourne where parents are suing another parent for lack of duty of care. Their kids both ended up with permanent brain damage.
In the last five months, I’ve organised 60 teen parties with parents all over Melbourne. This includes:
- Risk and pre-party safety assessment of venues (including homes).
- Risk assessment and safety plan for alcohol.
- Post-party transport arrangements.
Not one of these parties had an alcohol-fuelled problem.
About a third had gatecrashers who tried to get in, but were thwarted by my security team and diligent parents who cared about keeping the kids safe.
There is a solution to all this mindless violence.
If only parents would GROW UP!
Naomi Oakley, Managing Director, U-NOME Security Communication Specialists.
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